How to support the love one that passed away

Question: A friend’s … died about … She wants to know how she can best support him/her-­ especially during the next few weeks.

Garchen Rinpoche: Your mind is connected to your father’s mind through a bond of love. If you send him pure love, it will melt his self-­grasping. But, your love must also be selfless.  Therefore, you should practice a deity, such as Amitabha or Chenrezig, and recite their mantra.

When you think of your father, cultivate love for all beings who have been your fathers, and then meditate. As our minds are connected, it will reach him.

When you think of your father, cultivate love for all beings who have been your fathers, and then meditate. As our minds are connected, it will reach him. When his self-­grasping then diminishes, he will be liberated, or at least be born as a precious human being.